A Spec in Time Series

This is not the first time that I have sat with the dyeing. I’ve done it a lot in my life. I have had the honor of seeing many spirits off into the greatest of the unknowns. I do not care about their beliefs; they are all very similar, plus there is no real need to dive deep into the details. I just support them in love.

Holding space for someone at any point in life is wonderful, but in death, it’s a stark reminder of the human spirit. Sometimes there is verbal communication; often there is not. Just being is a skill on to it’s own. Being one with someone who is moving towards a place you are unable to go to, yet. However, you can get them to the passage. The art of being quiet, being invisible in the fabric of life, is intense. The payoff in love and peace is worth it. It is an overlooked ‘job’ in today’s hustle and bustle of life, when most people are expected back at work the next day. Americans, for sure, have no idea how to grieve anymore.

I found a switch/video game a few years back. It’s one I recommend to all hospice workers as well as those who have or are soon going to lose someone they love. It’s called Spiritfarer. Click that link to see a wiki article about it. I believe it is available across platforms. It will make you question, relax, learn, get frustrated, laugh, share, love, and let go. And yes, it will make you cry.

Crying is necessary to process death. Perhaps it cleans the soul, it moves the grief out of the lungs, and lets us know there is a deep connection in all life.

I have cried for those I have sat with whom I barely knew. This time it is a friend of nearly thirty years. I have and will cry more. There is only one line to say, as leaving a dying person at home or in a hospice room.

I love you, goodbye.